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Attachment & Relationship Therapy

Feel more secure. Connect more deeply. Understand yourself in relationships.

You might be asking yourself:

  • Why do I feel anxious or distant in relationships?

  • Why do I keep repeating the same patterns, even when I want things to change?

  • Why is it so hard to trust, open up, or feel safe with others?

You’re not alone. Relationships can bring joy, but they can also bring confusion, fear, and emotional pain, especially when your early experiences shaped how you protect yourself, express your needs, or respond to closeness.

Therapy can help you understand where these patterns come from, how they show up now, and what it looks like to build healthier, more secure relationships, with others and with yourself.

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What is Attachment?

Attachment is how we first learned to connect, feel safe, and get our emotional needs met. It starts in childhood and influences how we relate to people throughout our lives, especially in close relationships.

In your Family-of-origin, you may have experienced:

  • Emotional neglect, where your needs or feelings were dismissed

  • Enmeshment or blurred boundaries with caregivers

  • Conditional love based on achievement or obedience

  • Abandonment or inconsistency in attention and affection

If your early relationships were inconsistent, distant, or stressful, your nervous system may have learned to protect you by staying on high alert, shutting down, or trying to keep the peace at all costs.

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What Are Attachment Styles?

Attachment styles form in childhood based on how consistent, safe, and emotionally available our caregivers were.

They often show up in adulthood as:

  • Overthinking texts, reactions, or body language.

  • Struggle to ask for what you need

  • Avoiding emotional closeness or fearing being too dependent.

  • Feeling rejected or panicked by distance or silence.

  • Self-sabotaging healthy relationships or fearing abandonment.

  • Stay silent to avoid conflict

  • Longing for closeness while feeling unsafe in it.

  • Worry that others will leave or stop caring

  • Keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners

  • Feel like you’re always the one giving more

  • Feel stuck in old family roles or wounds

There are four attachment styles that show up in adulthood, which one below relates most to you?

  • You crave closeness but fear people will leave or forget about you. You may overthink, seek reassurance often, or feel rejected easily.

  • You may feel safer when you are independent. You might struggle to open up, ask for help, or feel emotionally overwhelmed when someone gets too close.

  • You may want connection but also feel afraid of it. You might go back and forth between clinging and withdrawing.

  • You feel safe being close and independent. You trust others and yourself, and relationships feel balanced and safe.

Therapy helps you better understand your attachment style so you can build relationships that feel more secure, safe, and supportive.

Why Do Relationships Feel So Hard Sometimes?

Your early relationships taught you a lot, including how to express emotions, how to ask for help, and whether you were safe being fully yourself. If you were raised in a home where emotions were ignored, dismissed, or punished, you may have learned to keep quiet, hide your needs, or stay in survival mode.

These experiences may lead to inner beliefs such as:

  • "I am too much"

  • "I am not worthy of love"

  • "If I open up, I will be hurt"

These early experiences can show up in adult life in many ways, especially in romantic relationships, friendships, and even at work or in spiritual communities. You may find yourself repeating family patterns or struggling to feel fully seen and valued.

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How Can Therapy Help?

In attachment and relationship therapy, we explore these patterns gently and safely. You do not need to have it all figured out to begin. Together, we look at your past experiences, current struggles, and what kind of connection you truly want.

Therapy can help you:

  • Understand your relationship patterns

  • Learn to feel safer with closeness, trust, and emotional expression

  • Set boundaries without guilt

  • Express your needs without fear of rejection

  • Stop over-functioning or shutting down in relationships

  • Heal from past relationship hurt, betrayal, or family pain

  • Feel more confident, clear, and grounded in how you relate to others

We may use a mix of approaches that support emotional and nervous system healing, such as Psychodynamic, Emotionally Focused Therapy, EMDR, IFS (parts works), and somatic experiencing. These are adapted to your unique story and pace.

For Individuals and Couples

This work can be helpful whether you come alone or with your partner.

We support:

  • Individuals healing from attachment wounds, relational trauma, or painful relationship cycles

  • Couples who want to communicate better, repair trust, or reconnect after distance or conflict

  • People looking to grow in emotional intimacy, trust, and relational safety

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Relational Healing Across Life Areas

This therapy is not just about romantic partnerships. Relational healing impacts all areas of your life.

  • You may feel stuck in cycles of partners who are distant or emotionally unavailable. You might fear closeness or worry about losing yourself in a relationship. Therapy helps you break these cycles by building safety, trust, and genuine intimacy. You will learn to express your needs clearly and develop secure, lasting partnerships.

  • If you struggle with people-pleasing, giving more than you get, or keeping others at arm's length to avoid hurt, therapy can help. You deserve friendships where you feel respected, valued, and emotionally safe. You can build relationships based on mutual care and honest connection.

  • Description text goes hereFamily relationships can feel stuck in old roles or patterns that cause pain and confusion. Therapy helps you set healthy boundaries, reduce reactive conflict, and reclaim your voice with confidence and respect. You can find peace and clarity in your family connections.

  • Many clients come feeling harsh inner critics, shame, or emotional disconnection from themselves. Attachment therapy supports you in rebuilding a secure inner foundation, cultivating self-compassion, confidence, and emotional resilience. You learn to be your own safe place.

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How I Work

I use an integrative, trauma-informed approach tailored to your unique story. These methods support deep emotional insight, nervous system safety, and lasting change.

  • Attachment-focused therapy helps you understand how early relationships shaped the way you connect, trust, and feel in present relationships. Whether you struggle with closeness, fear abandonment, or feel unsure how to be emotionally vulnerable, this approach helps you build safer, more secure connections with others and with yourself. We explore your attachment patterns with warmth and curiosity, helping you create new experiences of connection that are safe and healing.

  • Psychodynamic therapy helps you explore how your early relationships and past experiences shape your present thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Together, we’ll gently uncover unconscious patterns that may be keeping you stuck or disconnected. This approach helps you build deeper insight and healing by making sense of the emotional themes and relational dynamics that have followed you over time. You don’t need to relive everything, but we’ll give those old wounds the attention they’ve quietly needed.

  • EMDR is an evidence-based approach that helps people heal from trauma and distressing life experiences. It works by helping the brain process and re-store painful memories that may be stuck or emotionally charged. We use gentle bilateral stimulation (like eye movements or tapping) while focusing on specific memories or beliefs. You remain fully in control during the process. EMDR does not erase your past, but it can reduce the emotional weight and allow you to feel more grounded, safe, and whole. Click here to learn more about EMDR and Trauma Therapy.

  • Somatic therapy supports the connection between your mind and body. Many people store stress, trauma, or emotional pain in their bodies without realizing it. This approach helps you tune into physical sensations, tension, and nervous system cues as part of the healing process. You’ll learn how to feel safer in your body, regulate stress responses, and build a deeper sense of calm and presence. Somatic work is especially helpful if you feel disconnected from your body or emotions. Click here to learn more about Somatic Therapy.

  • EFT helps you identify your core emotional needs and shift negative cycles in relationships so you can feel safe, seen, and understood.

  • IFS is a gentle, non-pathologizing model that helps you explore your internal world through the lens of “parts.” We all have different parts that hold pain, protect us, or carry beliefs we’ve absorbed over time. For example, a critical part may try to push you to succeed, while another part feels stuck or ashamed. In IFS, we create space to understand and care for these parts, rather than judging them. Healing happens as you reconnect with your core self and learn how to bring more compassion to your inner world.

  • IPNB combines brain science and relationships to guide healing and build emotional resilience.

  • These tools help you observe your thoughts without judgment and develop a kinder, more loving relationship with yourself.

How it works

Life is stressful enough right now. Let me make this part as easy as possible.

1. Schedule a free consultation call

Click this link to reach out for a free, 15 minute consultation. I will get back to you within 1 business day with options for times to schedule a video call. The consultation will help me know how I can help you, see if we are a good fit, answer any questions you may have and see if our schedules align. If we are not a good match, I’ll provide some other referrals for you to check out.

2. Intake/First Appointment

If we agree that we are a good fit, we will schedule your first appointment. I will send you a link to paperwork to fill out online via a secure portal before our first session. This session tends to be more structured than ones to follow as I am trying to gather information that can help me better understand how to help you.

3. Let’s Dive in Together

In sessions to follow, you will get the support and tools to heal past hurts, overcome barriers, and move forward to reconnect yourself and create the change that you desire. These sessions will be guided by what you bring in with you, the approaches we will use, and your long-term goals.

You don’t have to keep living in fear of rejection, abandonment, or closeness.

If you long for deeper connection, emotional safety, and healthy relationships, support is available.

You are worthy of connection that feels safe, mutual, and real.