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Attachment & Relationship Therapy
Feel more secure. Connect more deeply. Understand yourself in relationships.
You might be asking yourself:
Why do I feel anxious or distant in relationships?
Why do I keep repeating the same patterns, even when I want things to change?
Why is it so hard to trust, open up, or feel safe with others?
You’re not alone. Relationships can bring joy, but they can also bring confusion, fear, and emotional pain, especially when your early experiences shaped how you protect yourself, express your needs, or respond to closeness.
Therapy can help you understand where these patterns come from, how they show up now, and what it looks like to build healthier, more secure relationships, with others and with yourself.
What is Attachment?
Attachment is how we first learned to connect, feel safe, and get our emotional needs met. It starts in childhood and influences how we relate to people throughout our lives, especially in close relationships.
In your Family-of-origin, you may have experienced:
Emotional neglect, where your needs or feelings were dismissed.
Enmeshment or blurred boundaries with caregivers.
Conditional love based on achievement or obedience.
Abandonment or inconsistency in attention and affection.
If your early relationships were inconsistent, distant, or stressful, your nervous system may have learned to protect you by staying on high alert, shutting down, or trying to keep the peace at all costs.
What Are Attachment Styles?
Attachment styles form in childhood based on how consistent, safe, and emotionally available our caregivers were.
They often show up in adulthood as:
Overthinking texts, reactions, or body language.
Struggle to ask for what you need.
Avoiding emotional closeness or fearing being too dependent.
Feeling rejected or panicked by distance or silence.
Self-sabotaging healthy relationships or fearing abandonment.
Staying silent to avoid conflict.
Longing for closeness while feeling unsafe in it.
Worry that others will leave or stop caring.
Keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners.
Feel like you’re always the one giving more.
Feel stuck in old family roles or wounds.
There are four attachment styles that show up in adulthood, which one below relates most to you?
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You really want closeness and worry about being abandoned or not loved enough. You crave closeness but fear people will leave or forget about you. You may overthink, seek reassurance often, or feel rejected easily. Your emotions can feel intense, and you may worry that your partner doesn’t care as much as you do. Therapy can help you feel more secure and calm in your relationships.
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You value independence and sometimes feel uncomfortable with too much closeness. You may feel safer when you are independent. You might struggle to open up, ask for help, or feel emotionally overwhelmed when someone gets too close. It can feel easier to rely on yourself rather than on others. Therapy can support you in opening up and building trust in relationships.
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You may want connection but also feel afraid of it. You might go back and forth between clinging to someone and pulling away. This happens because early relationships were confusing or scary, so your brain learned to feel unsure about how to stay safe with others. In adulthood, this can make relationships feel unpredictable and overwhelming. Therapy can help you understand these patterns and find ways to feel safer and more secure in your connections.
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You feel comfortable getting close to others and trusting them. You can share your feelings and ask for support without feeling afraid. When challenges come up in relationships, you’re able to work through them with honesty and patience. You feel connected, safe, and confident in your relationships.
Therapy helps you better understand your attachment style so you can build relationships that feel more secure, safe, and supportive.
Why Do Relationships Feel So Hard Sometimes?
Your early relationships taught you a lot, including how to express emotions, how to ask for help, and whether you were safe being fully yourself. If you were raised in a home where emotions were ignored, dismissed, or punished, you may have learned to keep quiet, hide your needs, or stay in survival mode.
These experiences may lead to inner beliefs such as:
"I am too much"
"I am not worthy of love"
"If I open up, I will be hurt"
These early experiences can show up in adult life in many ways, especially in romantic relationships, friendships, and even at work or in spiritual communities. You may find yourself repeating family patterns or struggling to feel fully seen and valued.
How Can Therapy Help?
In attachment and relationship therapy, we explore these patterns gently and safely. You do not need to have it all figured out to begin. Together, we look at your past experiences, current struggles, and what kind of connection you truly want.
Therapy can help you:
Understand your relationship patterns
Learn to feel safer with closeness, trust, and emotional expression
Set boundaries without guilt
Express your needs without fear of rejection
Stop over-functioning or shutting down in relationships
Heal from past relationship hurt, betrayal, or family pain
Feel more confident, clear, and grounded in how you relate to others
We may use a mix of approaches that support emotional and nervous system healing, such as Psychodynamic, Emotionally Focused Therapy, EMDR, IFS (parts works), and somatic experiencing. These are adapted to your unique story and pace.
For Individuals and Couples
This work can be helpful whether you come alone or with your partner.
We support:
Individuals healing from attachment wounds, relational trauma, or painful relationship cycles.
Couples who want to communicate better, repair trust, or reconnect after distance or conflict.
People looking to grow in emotional intimacy, trust, and relational safety.
Relational Healing Across Life Areas
This therapy is not just about romantic partnerships. Relational healing impacts all areas of your life.
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You may feel stuck in cycles of partners who are distant or emotionally unavailable. You might fear closeness or worry about losing yourself in a relationship. Therapy helps you break these cycles by building safety, trust, and genuine intimacy. You will learn to express your needs clearly and develop secure, lasting partnerships.
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If you struggle with people-pleasing, giving more than you get, or keeping others at arm's length to avoid hurt, therapy can help. You deserve friendships where you feel respected, valued, and emotionally safe. You can build relationships based on mutual care and honest connection.
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Family relationships can feel stuck in old roles or patterns that cause pain and confusion. Therapy helps you set healthy boundaries, reduce reactive conflict, and reclaim your voice with confidence and respect. You can find peace and clarity in your family connections.
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Many clients come feeling harsh inner critics, shame, or emotional disconnection from themselves. Attachment therapy supports you in rebuilding a secure inner foundation, cultivating self-compassion, confidence, and emotional resilience. You learn to be your own safe place.
How I Work
I use an integrative, trauma-informed approach tailored to your unique story. These methods support deep emotional insight, nervous system safety, and lasting change.
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Attachment-Focused Therapy is an evidence-based approach that centers on understanding and healing how early attachment experiences impact your current relationships. In therapy, I help you explore patterns of connection, trust, and emotional safety that developed in childhood and how they show up in your adult relationships. By creating a secure and supportive therapeutic relationship, we work together to repair attachment wounds, build emotional resilience, and strengthen your ability to form healthy, fulfilling connections with others.
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Psychodynamic therapy is an evidence-based approach that explores how early relationships and unconscious patterns influence your current ways of relating to others. In relationship and attachment work, I use psychodynamic therapy to help you uncover how past experiences with caregivers or significant people shape your attachment style and emotional responses. By gaining insight into these patterns, you can begin to understand repeated cycles in your relationships and develop new ways to connect that feel safer and more fulfilling. This approach supports deeper self-awareness and lasting change in how you relate to yourself and those you care about.
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EMDR is an evidence-based, trauma-informed therapy that helps process and heal painful or overwhelming experiences that can impact your relationships and sense of security. In attachment and relationship therapy, I use EMDR to help you identify and work through past wounds or negative beliefs that may be affecting how you connect with others. By gently reprocessing these memories, EMDR supports reducing emotional triggers and patterns of disconnection. This allows you to build healthier attachment styles and respond to your partner and yourself with greater calm, trust, and emotional availability. Click here to learn more about EMDR and Trauma Therapy.
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Somatic therapy supports the connection between your mind and body. Many people store stress, trauma, or emotional pain in their bodies without realizing it. This approach helps you tune into physical sensations, tension, and nervous system cues as part of the healing process. You’ll learn how to feel safer in your body, regulate stress responses, and build a deeper sense of calm and presence. Somatic work is especially helpful if you feel disconnected from your body or emotions. Click here to learn more about Somatic Therapy.
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EFT is an evidence-based approach rooted in attachment theory that helps couples and individuals strengthen emotional bonds and build secure connections. EFT helps you identify your core emotional needs and shift negative cycles in relationships so you can feel safe, seen, and understood. By exploring underlying emotions and patterns, EFT supports deeper intimacy, trust, and lasting change in how you relate to others.
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IFS is a compassionate and non-pathologizing approach that helps you explore the different parts of yourself that show up in relationships. In attachment and relationship work, I use IFS to help you understand the protective patterns that may be keeping you guarded, reactive, or disconnected. For example, a part of you might try to avoid vulnerability to stay safe, while another part longs for closeness and connection. Rather than judging or trying to fix these parts, we get curious about them and learn what they need. Through this process, you begin to relate to yourself and others from a grounded, calm place called the Self. IFS supports emotional safety, helps reduce inner conflict, and strengthens your ability to show up in relationships with more clarity, compassion, and confidence.
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IPNB combines brain science and relationships to guide healing and build emotional resilience. This approach helps you understand how your early experiences and relationships have shaped your nervous system, emotional responses, and patterns of connection. By bringing awareness to how your brain and body respond in relationships, IPNB supports the integration of mind, body, and emotions. Through safe, attuned connection and reflection, IPNB helps rewire the brain for greater connection, flexibility, and well-being, so you can move from reactivity to regulation and experience deeper, more secure relationships.
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Mindfulness and self-compassion are powerful tools that help you slow down, tune into your inner world, and respond to yourself with care instead of criticism. These tools help you observe your thoughts without judgment and develop a kinder, more loving relationship with yourself. In relationship and attachment work, they support emotional regulation, increase awareness of triggers, and foster a sense of inner safety. By learning to be present and gentle with yourself, you can break patterns of shame and disconnection and create space for more authentic, secure relationships with others.
How it works
Life is stressful enough right now. Let me make this part as easy as possible.
1. Schedule a free consultation call
Click this link to reach out for a free, 15 minute consultation. I will get back to you within 1 business day with options for times to schedule a video call. The consultation will help me know how I can help you, see if we are a good fit, answer any questions you may have and see if our schedules align. If we are not a good match, I’ll provide some other referrals for you to check out.
2. Intake/First Appointment
If we agree that we are a good fit, we will schedule your first appointment. I will send you a link to paperwork to fill out online via a secure portal before our first session. This session tends to be more structured than ones to follow as I am trying to gather information that can help me better understand how to help you.
3. Let’s Dive in Together
In sessions to follow, you will get the support and tools to heal past hurts, overcome barriers, and move forward to reconnect yourself and create the change that you desire. These sessions will be guided by what you bring in with you, the approaches we will use, and your long-term goals.
You don’t have to keep living in fear of rejection, abandonment, or closeness.
If you long for deeper connection, emotional safety, and healthy relationships, support is available.
You are worthy of connection that feels safe, mutual, and real.